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i'm sorry matt [Jul. 25th, 2005|10:02 am]
pillowpants
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thinking of taking in matthew soon.  he got kicked out of christian camp for flirting with a boy, and now they won't let him go on his "missions trip" to cambodia unless he changes his ways.  it's a bad situation.. living with our super-controlling parents who are dogmatically opposed to homosexuality and anything they see as unchristian.  he's stuck trying to fit with the quo of religious ideals and still be honest with himself. 

he'll turn 18 before long.  it's funny that i went through similar things with our dad at that same age. it's just harder for him since he likes boys. 

so... i'm keeping my eyes and mind open for flexible housing options.  i wonder how to get him state funding for community college.  does he have to live here for a certain amount of time?  i could say he's been living here with me for however long. 

both of our sexual drives make such issues. 
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[User Picture]From: deciding
2005-07-25 02:12 pm (UTC)
i think you have to live here for either 6 months or a year to be concidered a citizen.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 02:25 pm (UTC)
but do you think i can tell the school he's been living with me for that amount of time and just hasn't had any bills or drivers license because whatever, he just doesn't?
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[User Picture]From: deciding
2005-07-25 02:53 pm (UTC)
that could work, i would try it.
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[User Picture]From: androidqueen
2005-07-25 03:16 pm (UTC)
getting my driver's license switched to MA only wanted any piece of mail addressed to me as proof of residence. (of course, it also wanted my social security card, birth certificate, and parentage of my first-born child to prove that i was a US citizen, but . . .) if he has an out-of-state license, he can get an in-state one fairly easily.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 03:26 pm (UTC)
ok, he has a permit. i think that will help make it easier.
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[User Picture]From: yarnygoodness
2005-07-25 02:12 pm (UTC)
that's really fucked up. i'm always astounded at how backwords some people are. it makes me sad.

i wish there was something i could do to help. when i worked at the college LGBT center we had lots of resources for these sorts of situations. Maybe call your local LGBT youth center? I'd bet they deal with this often.

good luck.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 02:32 pm (UTC)
any tips are appreciated. i'll see if there is a center around. do you know of any?
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[User Picture]From: yarnygoodness
2005-07-25 02:37 pm (UTC)
you're in boston? let's see...
http://www.bagly.org/about.html
those guys might have some ideas.

or these guys?
http://www.bostonglass.org/about.htm
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[User Picture]From: dirteecrayon
2005-07-25 02:45 pm (UTC)
fenway health center ---
they have a really helpful helpline and a wealth of resources
http://www.fenwayhealth.org
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 03:26 pm (UTC)
thanks ; )
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[User Picture]From: yarnygoodness
2005-07-25 03:32 pm (UTC)
i'd start here, at glass:
Hello, I'm Juan. Please feel free to talk to me about housing issues, jobs, stress, relationships, etc. I am also the HIV Counsellor and Tester at the Center. We do anonymous and confidential testing here. Give me a call if you have any questions or would like to set up an appointment.

jramos@jri.org
617.266.3349 *205
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[User Picture]From: bombardiette
2005-07-25 02:26 pm (UTC)
You need to offer proof of residency for MA. It took me a while when I had to do it at UMASS.

Good luck with him. I'm sorry that it's turned out this way.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 02:31 pm (UTC)
i have my own proof, and he's my bro....

he has my middle name for his first???

maybe i should just get switch a bill to his name right now and then feel things out??
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[User Picture]From: luvrentboy
2005-07-25 02:30 pm (UTC)
If he needs a gay role model, I can show him the ropes.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 02:33 pm (UTC)
i knew you were going to post! dude, i'll bring him to rocky and let him have fun.... but be nice!
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[User Picture]From: luvrentboy
2005-07-25 02:37 pm (UTC)
When am I ever not nice.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 03:28 pm (UTC)
ok, maybe... keep it cool with the niceness. he needs time to acclimate to freedom and responsibility and find a balance before getting 'niceness' all over him.
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[User Picture]From: luvrentboy
2005-07-25 03:34 pm (UTC)
lol, i hear ya.
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[User Picture]From: dirteecrayon
2005-07-25 02:49 pm (UTC)
you can also try making a post in the b0st0n community about how to go about establishing residency, getting funding from the state, if theres loopholes and etc.

theres a few members in the community who work at colleges so they might be able to help or atleast lead you in the right direction.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 03:22 pm (UTC)
ok, i will.
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[User Picture]From: sissychrissy1
2005-07-25 02:53 pm (UTC)
Hey, I hope you don't mind that I added you after a post you made in the Boston community recently. You seem pretty cool, and we have a lot of common interests, plus you live in my favorite neighborhood ever. So there you have it.

That's rough about your brother. I went to the world's largest Baptist college, where they still kick you out for being gay or pregnant out of wedlock, and it's insane, so I feel for your brother. It's good that he has you for a support.
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[User Picture]From: potentialtoburn
2005-07-25 03:20 pm (UTC)
love the calvin and hobbes. adding you.

i went to christian college for two years ... after i decided i wasn't christian anymore. it was all paid for..

::sigh:: i know he'll make it through, but i hate knowing that most of the people around him are going to guilt him and pressure him to the extreme with their own twisted perspectives and morality.
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[User Picture]From: sissychrissy1
2005-07-25 03:32 pm (UTC)
Sounds familiar. I haven't practiced in a couple years at least, and I was so embittered by the time I got out, but it was my chance at a good education.
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From: daretoeatapeach
2005-07-25 04:25 pm (UTC)
I don't think (although I could be wrong) any residency term needs to be established for a community college (such as bunker hill), however I *can* confirm that there is such a thing (I think it's 1 year) to qualify at Umass. The workaround is to lie about one's residency, and show a gas bill or something. Check into the community college item. Worse case, he can go to bunker hill for a year while establishing residency and then transfer to Umass (bh is only a 2-year program anyway).

Let me know if I can further help, and I will help research it for him. I had a friend from Nh who went to Umass, and he lied about his residency. It sounds like a really tough situation for your friend. CA
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